What is Analingus?

Analingus is essentially oral sex for the ass! Really, it is the act of stimulating the anus with the mouth and tongue. While some people do slip their tongue inside their partner's rectum when performing analingus, rim jobs typically only pertain to servicing the booty's exterior (hence the word "rim.")

Consent and Communication

Always ask before making a meal of someone's ass! Just because your mouth happens to be near your partner's b-hole, that doesn't give you the right to smooch it. Be sure you have enthusiastic consent prior to rimming and recognize and respect the fact that said consent can be taken away at any moment for any reason.

And, of course, consent is a two-way street. Never pressure someone into giving you analingus, and never ass-ume that they will, either. I will forever be haunted by that Sex and the City episode where a man Miranda is sleeping with keeps shoving his ass in her face in hopes of her eating it (Season 4, Episode 6 - "Baby, Talk Is Cheap," if you're curious.) Don't be like that guy - nobody should be like that guy.

But there's more to discuss than simply asking, "Do you wanna?". Lovers should have an open dialogue before, during, and after engaging in analingus. Consider the following talking points (and follow-up questions because the more thorough you are in communication, the better!) for healthy conversations surrounding rim jobs.

Questions to ask before analingus:

• Have you ever tried analingus?

• (If they have tried analingus before):

  • Did you enjoy it, and would you be open to trying it again?
  • What did you like and dislike about it?

• (If they haven't tried analingus before):

  • Would you be interested in trying it out together?

• What can I do to make you feel the most comfortable during analingus?

• What sort of preparation would you like us to employ if we were to explore analingus?

Questions to ask during analingus:

• Are you comfortable?

• Does this feel good?

Questions to ask after analingus:

• Did you enjoy that?

• How do you now feel physically and emotionally?

• What did you like and dislike about that?

• Would you be interested in doing that again?

• Is there anything you'd like me to change up for next time?

Cleanliness and Safety

Personal hygiene is always a key factor when indulging in booty play, but especially so when ass eating is on the table. An unwashed puckered hole is unsafe to pucker your lips against as it can lead to the transfer of harmful bacteria like E. coli and salmonella. So, before you put your mouth where the sun don't shine, make sure your partner washes all external portions of their ass with water and mild soap.

Another safety measure to consider is the potential for STI transmission. You can reduce such risks by using safer-sex barrier methods like dental dams.

Understanding Anal Anatomy

It's hard to know how to please the human body if you don't know much about it! This crash course on anal anatomy should help you along your way to becoming an analingus superstar.

The exterior anal area is jam-packed with nerve endings (which is why anal play can feel so amazing!) and consists of four main parts:

Buttocks

(Informally known as: 'butt cheeks')

Sometimes also medically referred to as "glutes," the butt cheeks consist of three muscles: the gluteus maximus, gluteus medius, and gluteus minimus. Like most muscles, the butt cheeks respond well to squeezing and massage.

Intergluteal Cleft

(Informally known as: 'butt crack')

It's what's between the cheeks! This area is not touched regularly, which actually preserves the nerve endings here and makes it a little more sensitive than other fleshly areas of the body.

Anus

(Informally known as: 'butthole')

The anus is a wrinkled hole comprised of two rings of muscles - the external sphincter and the internal sphincter. The second highest concentration of nerve endings anywhere on the human body resides in the anus. (Can you guess where the highest concentration lives? That's right - the clitoris!)

Perineum

(Informally known as: 'taint' or 'gooch')

The perineum is a pressure point located between the anus and genitals.

Keep in mind that we're here to discuss sex, not science, so we've kept this overview quite simplistic. There's far more to anal anatomy than what we've covered, so if you're interested, do some research and read up on all the nitty-gritty details of the booty from a reputable medical source (or ask your neighborhood sex educator).

How to Perform Analingus

Now that you have some background info on eating someone's backside, it's time to get down to the backdoor business itself!

Step 1: Rev Yourselves Up

Going from 0 to 100 is rarely a recipe for sexual satisfaction, so don't forget to employ ample foreplay before devouring the main course. The more turned on you both are before analingus takes place, the more pleasurable it will be!

After engaging in plenty of standard foreplay ('standard' meaning whatever acts the two of you typically enjoy to get hot and bothered), you may want to spend extra time and attention providing ~anal foreplay~.

Since you're now already familiar with ass anatomy (you're welcome!), put that knowledge to use by giving love to each of the booty's pleasure zones (that you and your partner agree upon, of course).

To stimulate your partner's butt cheeks, you might try:

• Kneading and massaging
• Kissing, licking, and gently nipping
• Sensory play with ice cubes or sex toys like feather ticklers
• Giving them a light (or hearty!) spanking with your hands or impact play tools

To stimulate your partner's perineum, you might try:

• Wearing a finger vibrator and resting your now-vibrating finger against their gooch
• Gently tickling or rubbing it
• Using lubricant and a sensory-enhancing finger sleeve while lightly massaging

To stimulate your partner's anus during foreplay, you might try:

• Gently blowing onto it
• Teasing it by running your finger in circles around the area, starting with a large circle and slowly closing in on your target
• Lightly rubbing and massaging

And always make sure your nails are neatly trimmed and filed before playing with your boo's booty to avoid any injuries!