How?

If you’re taking on the Dom role first, have your lover sit in a dining chair, desk chair or any seat with legs and armrests (these make it much easier to secure your partner). Next, use bondage rope or tape to tie one of your partner’s wrists to the chair; leave the other arm free, so they’ll be able to tease you with their fingers.

Secure both their ankles by tying them to the legs of the chair. Coat the fingers of their free hand with a slick of lube, and then you’re ready to go! Stand in front of your lover so they’re able to lick and suck your genitals and fondle you with their free hand.

Why?

Tongue-Tied is satisfyingly simple and quick to set up. You don’t need to be a bondage pro; any knots will do for tying up your lover.

If the giver is an oral-sex fan, even better. This position is all about seeing just how much pleasure your tongue can give your partner while the rest of you is restrained. To really get them gasping, use your fingers too: cup your hand between their legs to massage their clitoris or perineum with your thumb, and their anus with your forefinger.

If your partner has balls, don’t forget about ‘em: caress them with your fingers, or take them gently into your mouth to suck on them.

Make it even better

Let’s get into some role play: maybe the seated partner is a passenger on a private jet, and you’re a seductive flight attendant who’s demanding more than a tip for their services. Or perhaps they’re a big-shot CEO, and you’re the naughty secretary who’s just cleared their schedule for the next hour…

We’ve got lots of sexy costumes to help you get into character... So, who will you play first?

Make it even easier

If a height difference makes it difficult to get into position for oral sex, grab a few books off the shelf and stand on them to give yourself a little more height.

If you can’t find a chair with legs, or it’s not comfortable to have your feet tied up, you can either leave them untied or simply tie your legs together at the knees or ankles. Use wrist or ankle restraints so skip any fiddly knot-tying.

Make sure the chair’s seat is soft enough to be comfy too, and pad it out with extra cushions if needed.

Make it even kinkier

Dial up the kink by adding a collar for the sub: options like collar-to-wrist restraints, collars with attached nipple clamps, or a simple collar with a leash can add to the playful sub-Dom dynamic. Need some tips on picking the right one for you and your partner? Check out our beginner’s guide to bondage collars.