Position Of The Week: Yours Truly
Dear Dom, tie me up and tease me. Yours Truly, sub. Let your lover take the lead and restrain you with a hogtie in this bondage sex position. If you’re looking for a simple way to explore BDSM scenarios during play, this clip-into-action bondage position is destined to please you both.
How?
If you’re taking on the sub role, lie down on your front and put your hands behind your back. Keep your knees wide apart and bend them, pulling your feet towards your bum.
Once in prime position, the Dom partner can secure the restraints onto the submissive’s wrists, ankles or both – depending on what gear you have on hand. What next? That’s for the Dom to decide, since their partner is all tied up and ready to submit.
If penetrative sex is on the cards, grab the lube. Then, the Dom can enter their lover from behind using a dildo (or their penis). Just be sure you’ve had a chat about safewords and expectations before you begin – kink is only fun when your boundaries are treated with respect.
Make it even better
You might be tempted to use something from home as DIY restraints but beware slippery textures that can easily tighten on their own (like a tie) – otherwise you risk cutting off the circulation. It’s always worth investing in a good quality set of restraints made from body safe materials that are easy to remove in a pinch!
Even if you’ve both been fantasizing about bondage for a while, it may feel overwhelming for first timers. Embrace any giggles and ease the tension by checking in with each other at various points throughout. A simple “What color are you? Red, Amber, or Green?” gives the sub a chance to signify how comfortable they feel.
If the sub needs warming up to the scene, try kissing up and down their body, focusing on the areas they can’t see (or popping on a blindfold) so they can’t anticipate where you’ll be kissing next.
You can also use a wand vibrator and gently trail it across their neck, back and shoulders. Take your time, here. Leave their erogenous zones ‘til last and tease the genitals for a few seconds before pulling back – to assert your dominance!
Make it even easier
To try out this position without being completely restrained, go for wrist cuffs only, rather than a full hogtie.
Or the Dom can grab the sub’s wrists in one hand while the other is free to finger them. This option is also great if you need to quickly take a break and stretch out before getting back into position again.
If you don’t have position enhancer on hand, a pillow or two will do just the trick. Simply place it under your partner’s stomach or hips to elevate their bottom higher up in the air and create a better angle for stimulating their sweet spots.
Make it even kinkier
Tying up your lover is a great intro to BDSM, but there’s a lot more to explore together. Experiment with dirty talk or impact toys to lean into the power exchange.
New to impact toys? If your sub enjoys soft, smooth strokes, teasing them with a feather tickler can heighten their sensitivity and help build up the anticipation.
A flogger is another non-intimidating option for if you want to progress from gentle tickles to hair-raising lashes. Gently stroke your partner’s thighs with the fronds of the flogger to prepare their skin for pleasure. Then, snap your wrist lightly to flick the ends against their butt cheeks.
As you both get more comfortable, you can raise the stakes, lashing the flogger a little harder each time.