How?

The receiving partner stands with one leg raised in a bent position, while the giving partner enters from behind, either anally or vaginally.

The giving partner can hold on to their lover’s raised ankle or wrap their arms around their torso. Either way, the giver should hold their partner tight and draw them in close.

Want the giving partner to set the pace? Surrender to their rhythm and ride. Alternatively, if the receiver wants to take charge or work as a team, move together to find the right motion.

Why?

With the Bear Hug, the giving partner gets a wide range of motion while the receiving partner is held in a tight, intimate embrace. Sexy.

Standing up positions bring a little novelty for couples that usually only get frisky in bed. Standing up while penetrating from behind also offers more intense G-spot or P-spot stimulation, while the giving partner has room to reach around and caress their lover’s penis or clitoris.

You can increase the intensity without having to switch positions or move to a new location; gently pull the receiving partner’s leg a little higher or ask them to bend over at the waist. Explore the different depths and angles, as well as varying the pace.

Try

The Bear Hug can be soft and intimate. But it’s also a surrender-worthy position for the kink-curious to explore power, pleasure, and pain dynamics.

Beginners might like to exaggerate the firm hold of this position to see how the restrictive play feels. Just remember to listen carefully to your partner and back off if they’re not enjoying it.

When you’re ready for props, bring in nipple clamps, blindfolds, or handcuffs for added thrills.

Make it even easier

For a little extra support, lean against a wall or bed. In fact, try both to explore the different angles.

If standing for long periods isn’t possible for you or your partner, try this position seated. The receiving partner can still play with bending and raising one leg to explore the varying angles – if their legs are mobile, of course.

For an even gentler position, take it horizontal. Lie on the bed in a spooning position. If the giving partner has mobility in their arms, they can still hold the receiving partner tight while penetrating them from behind.

Make it even better

Why stop at holding onto the hips and waist when you can caress breasts and chests? This is your cue to take full advantage of those wandering hands (consensually, of course), and touch, squeeze, and hold to your hearts content.

Since the giving partner penetrates from behind, you’ve also got loads of room to bring a vibrator into play, stimulating the receiving partner’s clitoris or penis and balls.

The giving partner can even back things up against a suction cup dildo like the Pleasure Trip Liquid Silicone 6-inch Dildo (perfect for Bear Hugs in the shower...), or wear a butt plug for anal stimulation.